Elmo and Oscar don’t get the same results
They see the world differently these two. You might believe at this very moment that we all live in the same reality, but it isn’t true. Not by a long shot Starla. We each live in our own realities. They may be similar, but they are NOT the same.
Elmo says, “ Good morning, friend. It’s so nice to see you. Would you like to play?”
Oscar says, “Scram kid. Get out here.”
Elmo smiles and waves.
Oscars scowls and furrows his brow.
People invite Elmos over to play. No one invites Oscar.
Elmo looks into the world and sees so many happy, friendly people. Oscar looks into the world and sees people trying to get things from him.
Two different philosophies. The funny part to me is their both right. They are both 100% right at the same exact time. One will find people to be generally mean, and the other will find people to be generally happy and friendly.
I had a physiology student in my OR yesterday, and she was amazing. For years I’ve had random students in my room. 99% of them sit in the corner. They don’t speak. They don’t move. They are bored and miserable, and they live in a world where everyone in the OR is mean and cranky.
This student smiled. She answers questions with good clear responses. She asked good questions. I invited her right up to the table and to look directly over my shoulder, while the doc and I explained the whole case. Once the specimen was removed and passed off the table, we had her put on gloves and hold the still warm organ in her hand. Pretty freakin cool!
Like I said, most of them don’t get that experience, and it wasn’t because of us. It was all because of her great attitude and interest.
Quick side story to further illustrate the point.
We were sleeping at my parents because our A/C system broke and it’s been 97% humidity here for days. My little guy likes to sleep in their camper.
He turns to me before bed and says, “When grandma and pop-pop die, I’m going to come and take the camper.” I’m sure he’s told them the same, but because of his attitude, he can pull it off. He isn’t malicious; he says it conversationally with a smile. And no one thinks twice about it if other people said something along those lines they’d be tarred and feathers and run right out of the house. When he does it, it somehow comes across as endearing, and it works!
Attitude changes reality.
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